My son Adam is 4. We started noticing sensory symptoms around 2. He was going to an in home daycare a few days a week. He began having difficulty with transitions, but it got bad when he entered preschool.
We decided the in-home daycare was not the best place for him, since he was having negative behaviors such as shouting and hitting, which we thought were being learned from another boy who was older.
He did OK in the beginning at the preschool, but In September this year (2010) when his classroom changed, he was between 2 larger classes and frankly it was chaotic. I was overstimulated and could not focus at pick up time. It also felt like each day, we as parents were going to the principals office to see how much hitting, kicking biting went on that day.
We moved him to another school which was much calmer etc. Still he was hitting/biting when the group got larger. He was again asked to leave.
He has since been evaluated by an OT/Psych/Neuro Dev/Eye Dr/ and he has substantial proprioceptive dysfunction, which comes with all the other SPD issues. He makes pretty good eye contact.
We have now found a more suitable environment. He goes to a preschool set up for kids with special needs. 1 teacher/aid per 3 or 4 kids. Things have gotten better at school.
He still explodes for what seems like no reason. He has a very short temper. He Wakes up angry 1/2 the time, Shouts at us often without provocation. He also has gotten in the habit of throwing toys when angry. (They go to time-out for a minimum of 24 hrs).
Behavior wise, we are pretty firm and consistent. We have embraced 1-2-3 magic as a behavior management tool. http://www.parentmagic.com/ Which has improved our situation considerably.
Until very recently Adam was napping every day for 60-90 minutes, which made bed time a 50-80 minute ordeal. Since he is now attending an afternoon special needs preschool, the nap has been eliminated and bedtime is somewhat more manageable, although we do lay with him until he is asleep. About 1/2 the nights he comes in to our room in the middle of the night. We have decided that a good night of sleep is more important than sending him back to his room at 3:30-5 AM. We have a king bed and most times he climbs over and crawls under the covers and goes to sleep.
At times we are at the end of our rope and our Pediatrician witnessed some of the hyperactive behavior at our last visit. He said he passively suggested medication for the hyperactivity. Is that a good answer at 4? Will it help him or us?
I should also add that we are doing all we can do to help. OT/OT at school/ PT/ Speech/ Sensory diet. Telling him we understand when the morning light bothers him.
We try hard to be patient but it isn’t always easy. I feel a little guilty, for even putting this all in writing. He’s really a terrific sweet boy and I feel like I have painted the picture of a monster. I wouldn’t trade him for the world. I just want to see if there is more help.
Please share your experience and your issues to help us understand how you have dealt with it and how your child has adapted.
BTW…Adam has blond hair and blue eyes and is absolutely adorable so strangers want to touch him. He is outwardly friendly and says hi to everyone. As a baby, he would stare people down until they acknowledged him.
He also obsesses about unusual things, but that may be normal 4 year old stuff.
He also has no interest in potty training at 4 yrs 1 month
Thanks for listening