Let me start off by saying do have a handful of friends and SOME family that respect her and her SPD…..but why do so many others not???
My dear little Samantha, 3 years old has SPD. She is beautiful and fun and smart and has taught those close to her so much about life outside the box!! My closest friends are so very understanding and will do their part in helping her feel safe and RESPECT her sensory issues. They know what to avoid doing around her and for that I have so much love and appreciation for them!! However for all the others……
Why don’t they Respect It?? Why don’t they Respect that we can’t come to their kids’ birthdays at Chuckie Cheeses?? Why don’t they Respect that they cant keep getting in her space? Why don’t they Respect that there are so many sounds that will send her in to a tailspin of events that is a sight to behold? Why don’t they Respect that just the sight of certain foods and objects will make her gag and run away? I could go on and on, all of us know the common sensory issues all of our kiddos have. But why cant they just respect it and work with her? Do they think she at 3 years old has learned to fake all this?? Please just accept and respect it! Heck if my 16 year old son and his friends can I would certainly expect a adult to as well!
Let me be the first to admit I don’t always get it, I may not always understand it. I mean why in the heck would something as innocent as Cotton Candy make her vomit and run for the hills?? Why wont she hug anybody in glasses?? Why do people wearing baseball caps totally freak her out?? Why wont she join her friends at preschool for music time?? Why will she carry a cookie for 3 hours but never take a bite of it?? I may not get why but I can Respect it!!
When will they all understand that this is real? I cannot force anything on her. I can not “just make her do it”. She is NOT “just spoiled”. She is a little girl trying her best to just get by in this huge world with a sensory system that is making it very very hard for her!
Now let me say she has come far with the help of a most wonderful OT! She is learning coping skills, but she’s little. She needs time!
To those who are judging her and and my parenting skills, I invite you spend 24 hours with her. Please if you have a magic wand that will help, well feel free to share!
Let me end by saying I love my dear little daughter to no end! She is a huge joy and a wonderful inspiration to all of us. All of us who RESPECT her and her SPD!!!!