October was Sensory Processing Disorder Awareness Month (whew, that’s a mouthful!). It’s frustrating enough to have children with “invisible disabilities”, but even more frustrating to have one that has it’s own awareness month…….and no one’s aware of it.
I could do any number of SPD awareness posts. However I’m going to go in a different direction. It’s inspired by a great post on the SPD Blogger Network . You can read it in it’s entirety here: I Don’t Want to be SuperMom.
First, here’s my new Halloween costume
I’m going to piggy back off that post a little. Not only do I not want to be SuperMom, I’m NOT! I lose it far too often. I yell at my children. I cry into my pillow. I sink into depths of loneliness & frustration that seem suffocating. People seem to think I have my act together just because I’m juggling various therapies, homeschooling, and three children with 17 or so “invisible disability” diagnoses between them. I’m pretty sure the reason they think I’m SuperMom is because I haven’t gone postal yet While I’d much prefer to be labeled SuperMom than have the dirty looks, snide comments, etc. that have come with various public outings, it’s just as inaccurate!
Sometimes, instead of declaring me SuperMom, people try to encourage me. I appreciate it, I really do! I need all the encouragement I can get!! However, if you’re trying to encourage, I begging you not to pull out the old “God wouldn’t give you more than you could handle”. That’s the one that makes me aggravated. I understand people mean it as an encouragement. I understand they think they’re reminding me of a great truth, but they’re not. Frankly, that old line can be quite insulting. Really, God is giving me this because I can handle it and you can’t? So He’s punishing me for being better than you? He’s making my children suffer because I can take it? I could go on, but you probably get the point here. Instead of being encouraging, that tired old “reminder” is quite discouraging. It’s discouraging not because I’m taking it wrong, but because the people saying it are incorrect! God hasn’t placed this in our lives because we can handle it, but because we can’t handle it without HIM. I’m going to quote my very favorite blogger & one of my very favorite people, Greg Lucas:
“My experience is that God will place a burden on you so heavy that you cannot carry it…alone. He will break your strong back and crush your independent will. He will buckle your stubborn legs until you fall flat underneath the crushing weight of your load. And there on the ground, flat on your face you will find written on the pavement of your pain, ‘“My grace is sufficient for you, My power is made perfect in your weakness.’” (taken from this post on his blog, Wrestling with an Angel)
So, when you see me seemingly taking a meltdown in stride, guiding the children through a particularly tough moment in time, you shouldn’t praise me, you should praise God. I’m no SuperMom, I’m a child of God depending on His grace to see me through every moment. Then don’t call me SuperMom, give me a hug….because I need more of them.