I’m usually incredibly positive and very thick skinned. However, there are those rare occasions that someone’s words or actions really get to me.We are blessed to have a lot of friends and family in our lives. A lot of them have been incredibly helpful and understanding while we struggle with our son’s SPD, severe speech delay and other developmental delays. They ask us for tips on how to best interact with him and what they can do to help him (or us). Others try to make us feel better by claiming that there’s nothing wrong with Kaleb or that we’re over reacting. My little Kaleb Monster is pretty damn amazing if I do say so myself but that doesn’t mean there’s nothing wrong.
I know they mean well, but it’s incredibly frustrating. We spend so much time fighting to our insurance, chasing grants, talking to coordinators, working with therapists, coordinating with doctors, tracking down specialists, researching, planning and teaching. A lot of time and energy goes into working with Kaleb on his speech and other issues. If there IS something wrong, getting help early on is important. If there ISN’T anything wrong, then what does it hurt?
If you want to think I’m over reacting, go right ahead, just keep it to yourself. Telling me that I’m over reacting doesn’t help. Telling me that I’m “lucky that he doesn’t talk” because your kid won’t shut up isn’t helpful, isn’t funny and just isn’t nice. I’m pouring my heart and soul into something as simple as just getting him to try and say the word “mommy” at 23 months of age.
I know I’m not alone on this, what horrible things have you been told by a well meaning family member or friend?