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He’s Not Just Quirky.

I’ve told our story to, what feels like, 4 million people…doctors, nurses, therapists, nutritionists, family, nurses, co-workers, bosses, friends, babysitters, insurance companies, human resource representatives, insurance agents, and one time to some random women in the grocery store line that may have involved tears and another teary moment in an elevator to another parent (thank you random person for telling me that I am validated in my freaking out moment).

Oliver has and always will be, just O., or the Monster, or my baby, or Oliver. I’ve spent the last 2 1/2 years explaining away his behavior. “He’s just quirky”, I’d say. “He’s just smarter than other kiddos”, “That just his personality”, “He has a big imagination”…. but then came our breaking point… and a wake-up call from my husband….

O isn’t “just quirky”…

Following a moment of complete breakdown in the cracker aisle at a grocery store on our monthly, family grocery trip D looked at me, hand on my elbow, as both O and I are sobbing and said “We need to see a doctor. This is not normal and not healthy”. I agreed.

“He’s not just quirky”.

We made an appointment with our pediatrician and our life has never been the same since. We hadn’t been in the office for 5 minutes before our Doc suggested Asperger’s and sent us to a neurologist immediately. I appreciate the support from our docs but within 2 weeks we went from a normal child to 3 therapists, a ped, a neuro, and a marriage that consists of discussing how to handle our child. I’ve been married to D for 7 months and been with him for 3 1/2 years and in the past 12 months we have done nothing besides handle our child. I watch O sometimes and want to scream at doc when I can finally talk to a live person and not a voicemail or an appointment 3-4 months away. I want to scream, what can I do NOW. Right now.” …continue reading

Stamania

From the passenger seat of the car, da Creature says “Link needs to win the mini-game so he can give stamania to the…”  (google “Skyward Sword” if you for some reason don’t know who Link is)

I, from the driver’s seat of the car correct him mindlessly, almost robotically, intoning “Say it right, you know how to pronounce it…”

Dejected little voice whimpers grudgingly “stamina.”

But, upon reflection, I wish someone could bottle that other thing–stamania.  I’d buy that.  In my six hour reprieve from being da Mama (really, reprieve?  you still have chores, and money to tend, and the large husband shaped Aspie to refocus, and work stuff that followed you home, and taxes, and an endless list of things you could not get done because you were taking care of/teaching da Creature….) I often contemplate stamania.  I have even evolved a definition of the word:

stamania–n. 1. the required mind/body attitude which accompanies the  purposeful, rabid pursuit of a goal.  2.  amplified parental fatigue, which induces the belief that you can simultaneously cook dinner (or do anything) AND deal with your child’s sensory issues. …continue reading

New Year, New Crazyness, Round 1

January 22, 2012 in ADHD, Anxiety, Autism, Marriage, Parenting, SPD, Vacation with 3 Comments

Happy New Year! We are only a few days into 2012 and is anyone else feeling a bit overwhelmed already, or am I the special crazy person of the year? In all seriousness, I know

Family Cuts

Ooooh where do I start venting?! In all honesty, I have to say I have come to the realization that people are not always meant to be in our lives, and I have an easy

10 Things I Want Everyone to Know About My Boys!

As a special needs mom, of two, I have gone through a lot, emotionally. Both my boys have SPD but, the oldest has a slew of acronyms that follow his name in folders somewhere and in explanations

Marriage Advice Special Needs Moms Don’t Want to Hear

June 17, 2011 in Advice, Father's Day, Marriage, Self Care with 9 Comments

I thought in honor of Father’s Day, I would give all of the special needs fathers our there a gift.  I am giving their wives some advice they could NEVER get away with saying themselves – a

Letting Go and Adapting

April 10, 2011 in Advice, Marriage, Parenting with 1 Comment

I had plans to start this new year by writing lots of helpful, informative posts about living with a child with SPD….but honestly, I’m usually so tired that when I do get to visit with

All Showers Lead to Australia

February 19, 2011 in Advice, Marriage, Parenting, Self Care with 9 Comments

“Do you want to go to Australia with me?” My husband asked casually while I stood at the stove cooking the taco meat for dinner the other night. Such a ridiculous question didn’t warrant an

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