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If I had only known back then…

November 15, 2012 by in Parenting, SPD with 7 Comments

They say hindsight is 20/20. Well, no kidding. If I knew what I know now back then, the last 7 years could have been less stressful and full of more answers instead of constant questioning and frustration. I suppose we should have known when at 2 months old Marik was rolling over already trying to crawl (not kidding, actually attempting to crawl and getting ANGRY about not accomplishing it).

Then again, maybe I should have known when he was born and the hospital pediatrician came in to check on him, and he was holding his head up and looking all around at everything to which she said, “Huh, he’s a strong one isn’t he? Not many newborns can do that.” And then she made a note to his pediatrician in his chart…

Maybe we should have known when for the first 4 months of his life he HAD to sleep on me at night or else he would scream inconsolably until he did. We thought he just wanted mommy, maybe it was something else…

Maybe we should have known when he was two and a half weeks late. ..

Maybe there were things we thought were just “Marik’ish” that should have set off more red flags…

Maybe we are just parents trying to do the best for our kid and feel like we are fighting a losing battle… …continue reading


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Thinking differently

November 12, 2012 by in Autism, School, SPD with 3 Comments

November 6, 2012…later in the day…Why it matters part II…

As soon as I picked Ewan and his brother, Vaughn, up from school today, they honed in on my ‘I voted’ sticker, and excitedly asked, “Did you vote today mom?”

I replied, “Of course, I voted!  It’s my duty.”  The historian in me giggled with delight as I explained all about voting to the boys.

Ewan seemed very excited about this, and asked, “So, can kids vote?  I want to vote.”

I shook my head, “No, kids can’t vote.  You have to be 18 years of age to vote.”

Ewan frowned, “Why?  That’s not fair!”

I patted his shoulder quickly before he squirmed away, and said, “Well, voting is a serious responsibility and you have to be able to handle that responsibility before you vote.  And that means you have to be a little older.”  When Ewan continued to frown at me and mumble something about unfairness in the American political landscape, I said, “You know, I wanted to talk to you about rights today anyway.  So even though you don’t have the right to vote just yet, you do have another right.”

Excited, he asked, “What right?”

I smiled, thinking maybe I’d found a segway into my next topic, “Well, it’s called the right of inclusion.”

He groaned, “Inclusion?  That’s not fun.”

I laughed, “Well, maybe, maybe not, but it’s still a right.  And it’s something you should know more about.” …continue reading


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Living in “Interesting” Times

November 11, 2012 in Autism, Behavior, Marriage, Parenting, SPD with 7 Comments

My husband is a Naval Officer. We’ve been married for 17 years and have three children together. Our two boys, ages 5 and 4, are on the autism spectrum. As such, they have a boat

Sensory Friendly Halloween 2012

October 27, 2012 in Advice, Behavior, Holiday, Parenting, SPD with 0 Comments

Halloween is another one of those holidays that requires special planning when it comes to having a kiddo with SPD. Technically, I can’t think of many holidays that don’t require some kind of planning on

Explanatory Fictions, Behavior, and Sensory Processing

Many people with autism are also diagnosed with Sensory Process Disorder (SPD). Much like autism itself, diagnosis is not always clear-cut. We all, to some degree, have some sensory sensitivities or proclivities. But true SPD

Outsiders: Including Those on the Inside

September 13, 2012 in Behavior, Parenting, SPD, SPD Awareness with 8 Comments

We all know that sometimes the world sees our children differently, but it can be heart breaking when you realize your child sees themselves differently, or loved ones see them differently. Recently I had a

Proprioception and Calming Techniques

I don’t know what percentage of our day is concerned with managing our J-Man’s sensory challenges, but I’m sure it’s a lot. Just about every autistic child I know struggles with one or more of

Autism, Meltdowns and Sherlock Holmes

September 8, 2012 in Autism, Behavior, Parenting, SPD with 2 Comments

“When you remove the impossible, whatever remains, however improbable, must be the truth.” – Sherlock Holmes Meltdowns – or perhaps we should call them ‘strongly, vocally, and dramatically expressed opinions’ – have become an all-too-frequent

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